In 2017, 39% of couples said they met online, which is a significant increase from 5% in 2000 and 20% in 2010. With how rapidly the internet’s grown in the last few decades, it’s no surprise this has happened, especially since there are many convenient dating apps available now.
Maybe you’ve met the love of your life online, and the relationship is getting serious. But this isn’t like a traditional courtship, so when exactly should you get engaged and married? Is it on the same timeline as in a regular relationship?
If you’re wondering when to get engaged after finding love online, then read on for a complete guide. After you’re through with this article, you’ll know exactly when it’s right to propose to your love!
Have You Met in Person?
Your answer to this question will heavily impact whether or not you should get engaged yet.
While modern programs like Skype, Discord, and FaceTime allow you to voice and video chat in real-time, it’s not quite the same as meeting up and interacting in real life.
It’s true that you can develop a close relationship using online dating sites. Within a few months, especially if you chat often, it can feel like you’ve known each other forever. You may feel like you know everything about that person; you’ve talked about every subject possible, after all.
But meeting in person is very different from chatting online. You can’t work the angles, nor can you fix the lighting to be advantageous. Plus, there are many physical cues and actions that are lacking when you video call.
It’s not uncommon for people to think they’ve met their soulmate online, then feel a lack of chemistry when they meet up. It’s always going to be initially awkward, but once you figure out how to interact with one another in person, you should get a good feel of whether or not your connection is still the same.
So if you haven’t met in real life, get through this hurdle first before even considering proposing.
How Long Have You Been Together?
It’s easy to feel like you want to be with someone forever when you’re still in the honeymoon phase. But the truth is, this phase only lasts about 1 to 2 years.
After it wears off and you’ve gotten used to one another’s habits, what may have seemed cute in the beginning can be an aggravating and annoying thing to you now.
If you haven’t been together for at least 2 years, we’d suggest holding off on proposing. You may be looking at everything with rose-tinted glasses, and you may feel differently after the honeymoon phase wears off. Once you’re out of the “crazy in love” phase, then you can reassess the idea of marriage and see if it’s still right for you.
Have You Lived Together Before?
Staying in a hotel with your loved one for a few days is completely different from living together, so that doesn’t count. While cohabitating isn’t really a prerequisite for getting married, it can certainly help you make a decision about proposing.
Even if you spend countless hours with each other every day, it’s not the same as living together. When cohabitating, you can find out about each other’s habits, ways of doing chores, and other important details about daily life.
Experiencing cohabitation can be a good way to see if you’re compatible with one another for the long term. Plus, if you sort out any key issues before you get married, you won’t be in for a shock after you’ve tied the knot.
Have You Talked About Important Subjects?
One of the biggest things couples argue about is finances; many marriages end in divorce because of this. But there are also other subjects that are dealbreakers, such as how many kids to have, religion, and even politics.
If you haven’t had a discussion about these things and other issues you hold dear to your heart, then you need to do it before you consider getting married. It may be hard to bring up since you want your relationship to be all sunshine and rainbows, but it doesn’t help to stick your head in the sand about crucial issues.
Just because you and your sweetie don’t agree on certain subjects doesn’t mean your relationship or marriage won’t work. So long as you can have a mature and constructive conversation, plus come to a compromise, then your relationship stands a chance of working out.
Are You Ready Now?
Perhaps you’ve read the above and feel like you’re ready to propose now. In that case, then you probably need some advice on how to buy engagement and wedding rings.
Take note of what her normal jewelry style is, then try and pick an engagement ring that’s similar. If she has friends you can reach out to, consult with them to see if she’d like what you’ve picked out.
For your wedding rings, men’s platinum wedding bands are very popular. You can also get a matching one for your fiance or have her pick something that’s better suited for her style.
When to Get Engaged Is Deeply Personal
For every person, when to get engaged will be different. Don’t propose unless you feel 100% ready; marriage is a lifelong commitment, after all.
Considering most couples divorce over financial issues or other major life subjects, make sure you talk to your loved one about these things before you get married. If you know where both of you stand on vital issues like children, finances, and politics, you stand a better chance of having a strong marriage.
Just remember to keep our tips in mind, don’t rush things, and you should be fine. Of course, even with the best preparation and 100% certainty about your relationship isn’t a guarantee that your love will last, but it’s definitely a start!
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