Passive vs. Active Dating

Get Off Your Butt and Get in the Game!

Online dating is definitely one of the most convenient ways to meet
singles and even find a great relationship, but just because its
convenient, doesn’t mean you are going to get what you want without
any effort. The sad truth is that around 90% of online daters make a
profile and just wait for Mr./ Ms. Right to find them. Some of those people
might get lucky and their perfect person will find them, but a lot more
would find success if they would just get off their butts and
get into the game.

Are you an Active Dater or a Passive Dater?

*The Passive Dater*
Passive daters are generally people who aren’t completely sure that this
whole “internet dating thing” is for them. They only have a toe
in the water and are probably using a free membership. They know in
their heart that there is someone out there who is perfect for them, and
despite a little healthy skepticism, they don’t see what harm putting up
a dating profile would do. After all, someone great might send them an
email. For many of them, that’s the whole deal. They don’t do
much searching to see if there are people they are interested in, and if
they do find someone they like, they will almost always send them a wink
instead of an email.

Why don’t they try just a little bit harder? Sometimes it is as simple
as the fear of rejection. Not getting a response to an email from
someone you like can be just as painful as the first time you got
rejected by a member of the opposite sex in high school. Unfortunately,
the passive daters are so focused on the fear of rejection that they
forget how great it feels to make that connection. On the other hand,
sometimes, it’s just an issue of laziness. We all get a little lazy once in a while and honestly, it can be easier not to try than it is to put
in some effort. No matter what the reason, except for the ones who are
lucky to be found by active daters, passive daters almost always fail at
online dating. They end up quitting, and all they have to show for the
experience is a bruised ego and a little more skepticism. Passive Daters
leave, powerless, just as they came in.

The Active Dater*
If you care enough to actually read one of these advice articles, there
is a 50% percent chance that you are already an Active Dater. That
doesn’t mean that you are meeting all the people you want to, but that
you have a much better chance then the Passive Daters. That’s because
you are willing to give it a try. Just by putting the extra effort into
your profile and photos, and taking the time to find people you like and email them, you are 100 times more likely to meet some great
people, go on some great dates, and maybe even find the special person
you’ve been looking for.

Active Daters know that sure, they might not get a response to all of
the emails they send out, but they aren’t going to let that stop them
from trying. They usually have a friend or family member that has
met someone online and they know that “If they can do it, I can too. “
The doors of online dating are open for these active daters because
unlike the 90% of people who are waiting to be found by the 10% of the
remaining daters, they can search through all 100% to find the people
they want to meet. Active Daters have all the power on the dating site.
If anyone will find a great match it’s them.

*A Word To The Wise*

If you are a Passive Dater it’s not too late to get off your butt and
start meeting people. If you are an Active Dater you have to
remember that effort is important, and so is making a great first
impression with an interesting profile and recent, good quality photos.
If you can keep up the right attitude and get the profile and photo up
to snuff, nothing is going to be able to stop you.

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What is Online Dating?
Who Uses Internet Dating?
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